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It seems there are a lot of ads here lately from "Dominants" seeking a "submissive." Most of them are comical at best, some can be down right scary.
So what is a Dominant anyway?
To many that are posting these ads, a Dominant is nothing more than a label they have chosen to tell you that they will boss you around and have their way with you in a physical sense. They will basically pound you the way they want to and you have no say so about how that happens. Most likely they have read "50 Shades of Grey" or have heard that a lot of women have read it, and so they are trying to capitalize on this new fascination of the Dominant/submissive relationship. Beware this type of "Dominant."
A true Dominant goes much deeper than just the physical. When you choose to offer yourself in submission to a Dominant, He or She is charged with your care. They become responsible for you, your safety, your growth, your direction and your well being. It is not simply just permission to pound you roughly.
A true Dominant will take their time with you. They will get to know you in every way they can... mind, body, spirit and soul. They won't rush into tying you up, striking you, choking you, cutting you, or whatever dark fantasy they may have. They will invest of themselves into you, seeking to make a deep connection with you that goes well beyond just the physical. Why?
In a D/s relationship, trust and communication are critical. So much of what is done physically in BDSM, even on the milder side, can be risky and dangerous. Not knowing how someone will react puts them at greater risk for danger. A true Dominant will need to know how you react to their touch, to their words, and so much more. They need to build trust within you as well as within themselves with you.
The emotional and mental state of a submissive is also placed at risk in a D/s relationship. Even if the submissive simply decides to only give of their body, their emotions and mind will become a part of it as it is nearly impossible to truly separate these parts of the human experience. As such, the Dominant needs to be able to understand the submissive. They should strive to learn the submissive's desires, goals, hopes and dreams. They should work with the submissive to help bring these to life, all the while helping to overcome the fears of the submissive.
So you see, a Dominant is not just someone that will order you around, hit you until it hurts so good and pound you wildly. Not that there is anything wrong with that! But they should strive to look well past the physical and work to connect with the mind and soul as much as the body.
So as you are considering the world of submission to a Dominant, take time to get to know the Dominant you are considering. If there is a rush to "play" immediately, beware. This may be someone looking to get laid and have some fun, simply wearing the "Dominant" label.
How do I know? Well, I am a Dominant. I have never read "50 Shades" and I have seen the effects that such wannabe "doms" can have on subs. I won't profess to know everything, but when I take on a new submissive, I know that I am taking on a lot of responsibility and understand the weight of it.
I prefer a Sub to be of Average to hour glass figure in Body{No bbw}, The shorter the better,Big Breast is a Plus, Single, prefer no kids but not a deal breaker, and No pill heads
I can offer more than others, Such as a Private Room and Bath if your a Sub who needs a place to stay. Will discuss
If you are reading that means you have at least thought about this. Please contact me and we can talk about it. If it right for you great if it is not well maybe you will have learned something.
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